Why do people insist on imparting their (ok, well intentioned) advice? I appreciate all the well-meaning but I am of the firm opinion that these more often than not handicaps people. To the point where they cannot make their own decisions. Please leave me alone. Please let me make my own decisions. If I need advice, I will ask. My pride does not get in the way, honest, I will ask.
If I've made my decision and it's not one that harms anyone, please do not ask why, where, when, how, what. Please accept it. No sarky remarks need to be given either. If I've not made my decision, then please do not keep pushing it.
I pray for God's guidance in all my decisions, and that He will put the right people there to guide me in the right way.
Sunday, October 03, 2010
Thursday, March 18, 2010
I need to know
I have been wondering for many years now what God has in store for me. I may be blind and deaf as I am still wondering. What is it that God wants me to do? Maybe I don't know how to hear properly. Maybe that's it - I have to learn better there.
I'm getting disillusioned and unmotivated. Before this impacts significantly on my life and also before it becomes ungodly, I really need to know. Should I just leave? Should I do something else? Should I have a different direction? I really don't know. And I really need to know.
I'm getting disillusioned and unmotivated. Before this impacts significantly on my life and also before it becomes ungodly, I really need to know. Should I just leave? Should I do something else? Should I have a different direction? I really don't know. And I really need to know.
Tuesday, December 01, 2009
Why do people talk in codes?
"Erm, did that person...what's his name...we met him yesterday....get back to you about putting that thing on the cabinet..." What person? What thing? Why don't people think before they say something? Pure laziness. You've already got someone's attention so speak properly. That sentence just said makes no sense whatsoever and leaves the other person wondering what it was all about in the first place. Better not to have said anything at all.
As the saying goes "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all" and in this case "If you don't have anything new and relevant to add, don't say anything at all". The amount of times (which funnily has increased tremendously since moving countries) when people open their mouths for the sheer sake of it has astounded me. They have more or less repeated the same thing someone else has said a few minutes ago or feels the need to hear their own voice or remind other people they're still there. Waste of time.
As the saying goes "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all" and in this case "If you don't have anything new and relevant to add, don't say anything at all". The amount of times (which funnily has increased tremendously since moving countries) when people open their mouths for the sheer sake of it has astounded me. They have more or less repeated the same thing someone else has said a few minutes ago or feels the need to hear their own voice or remind other people they're still there. Waste of time.
Saturday, October 31, 2009
Sounds Easy
I'm wondering what to do. Wondering what I can do. It sounds so easy. Understand what you are good at, what you are bad at, what you are passionate about and make it your job. Hmm....
I wish I knew. People have told me what I'm good at. Even more have told me what I'm bad at. :) Not really sure what I'm passionate about. I'm more of a jack-of-all-trades, master-of-none. Can I make a living out of that? I really don't know.
I've toyed with the idea of this years ago but I was very happy in what I was doing and could see all the things I was learning. There was no point getting out of it. I'm now thinking about this idea a lot more seriously. Like several times a day sometimes, which can be very negative and obsessive! What I need to figure out is what I should do instead. I know what I want and what I don't want. I just need to find out what I can do to make it all happen and the right time for all this to happen.
Sounds easy but it's not! It's been stumping me for ages!
I wish I knew. People have told me what I'm good at. Even more have told me what I'm bad at. :) Not really sure what I'm passionate about. I'm more of a jack-of-all-trades, master-of-none. Can I make a living out of that? I really don't know.
I've toyed with the idea of this years ago but I was very happy in what I was doing and could see all the things I was learning. There was no point getting out of it. I'm now thinking about this idea a lot more seriously. Like several times a day sometimes, which can be very negative and obsessive! What I need to figure out is what I should do instead. I know what I want and what I don't want. I just need to find out what I can do to make it all happen and the right time for all this to happen.
Sounds easy but it's not! It's been stumping me for ages!
Saturday, October 17, 2009
Continuing the Uncertainty
I remember all the uncertainty I had about relocation and whether it was the right thing to do. I thought we made the decision and then all else would follow on. Ah, how naive I was.
The uncertainty continues. Every step of the way. Almost, if not every day. I still wonder if we did the right thing. I still feel very much like I don't belong. I have prayed for God to tell me what His plan is. Surely He has a reason for why I am here. I am still trying to find out what it is. I hope I've not been so blind as to miss His plan! Is it to make me appreciate even more what I had before? Because I've always appreciated what I had before. Really.
Each time I go back, I realise how good it was and how I could have continued with it. And how nothing now compares to it. In everything. Sure, there are good and bad as with everything but the good for me there was really good and the bad for me was very tolerable. Not so here. I try not to live my life comparing my life before with my life now. Surely it will be different but it's quite difficult when it's different in the wrong direction! I guess the only consolation is that I now know that if it had been my decision, it would have been the right one. And others are beginning to realise that too. Shame it was not realised before as it would have saved a lot of this!
With the uncertainty now comes people telling me not to do certain things because it is certain the decision will change. All very well and I have to keep biting my tongue to say "I told you so". But I can't live my life to continue being unsettled and not doing certain things just because the decision will change. That means that I can't live each moment to its fullest. Because what's the point? It will change anyways. In which case, why not give it all up now? To which many will tell me I can't either. One just can't win. It's so annoying when people interfere. Ugh.
The uncertainty continues. Every step of the way. Almost, if not every day. I still wonder if we did the right thing. I still feel very much like I don't belong. I have prayed for God to tell me what His plan is. Surely He has a reason for why I am here. I am still trying to find out what it is. I hope I've not been so blind as to miss His plan! Is it to make me appreciate even more what I had before? Because I've always appreciated what I had before. Really.
Each time I go back, I realise how good it was and how I could have continued with it. And how nothing now compares to it. In everything. Sure, there are good and bad as with everything but the good for me there was really good and the bad for me was very tolerable. Not so here. I try not to live my life comparing my life before with my life now. Surely it will be different but it's quite difficult when it's different in the wrong direction! I guess the only consolation is that I now know that if it had been my decision, it would have been the right one. And others are beginning to realise that too. Shame it was not realised before as it would have saved a lot of this!
With the uncertainty now comes people telling me not to do certain things because it is certain the decision will change. All very well and I have to keep biting my tongue to say "I told you so". But I can't live my life to continue being unsettled and not doing certain things just because the decision will change. That means that I can't live each moment to its fullest. Because what's the point? It will change anyways. In which case, why not give it all up now? To which many will tell me I can't either. One just can't win. It's so annoying when people interfere. Ugh.
Saturday, October 03, 2009
It seems silly
I don't know why I feel like this. It's not like I am starving, in poverty, in any sort of huge problem. Yet, I feel sad and void. I really should feel blessed. I have so much. I have people who love me. I have people who look out for me. I keep telling myself that but it does not work.
It seems silly thinking back about little problems. Things that may not even have happened. It is silly to worry about stupid things.
Lord, I commit these stupid little worries to You. Please give me the wisdom to realise how stupid it all is and how stupid I would be to let it affect me.
It seems silly thinking back about little problems. Things that may not even have happened. It is silly to worry about stupid things.
Lord, I commit these stupid little worries to You. Please give me the wisdom to realise how stupid it all is and how stupid I would be to let it affect me.
Monday, September 07, 2009
Sunday, August 02, 2009
Choice to be Useless
Why do some people choose to be useless? I'm talking about people who have fully functional limbs and brain, as far as I can tell. Why do they choose to be dependent on others?
You are lucky to be blessed with hands that can pick up the telephone to book your car service, to have a voice to ask the question yourself, have access to technology to login to the Internet and book accommodation/flights yourself, legs to bring you to the shop to buy/collect whatever it is you need, ears to listen to instructions so you know how to operate the computer / lift / phone / etc and a combination of motor functions to drive a car yourself.
Why do some people pretend to be incapable of doing the simplest of tasks? To pretend that they can't do it? Simply because they are too lazy. Most of the time because they can get away with having someone else do it.
Be ashamed of yourselves. If you can't lift the cupboard hence need help from someone stronger? Fair enough. If you're not tall enough to reach to the top of the shelf and there is not a chair in sight, so need someone taller to help? Ok.
Especially be ashamed that you are healthy and fit, yet choose not to use what God has blessed you with, in order to function properly in life. Be ashamed that there are other less healthy people in the world who can do all these things and more. Because they have the right attitude. Because they are not lazy.
Be ashamed if you use your gender or age to your advantage too. I know of a 20+year old woman who got others to book her ticket and fly the same airline as her (even though it was more expensive and took longer) just so she can get air miles on her trip. Shame also on the rest who stupidly followed through. The same woman gets gentlemen to do her errands she is perfectly capable of doing herself. Shame on these gentlemen who do not think with their proper head. I know of another older woman (but not so old that she is hard of hearing, or has sight issues or has motor issues) who is dependent on others to go for meals so she does not have to choose the restaurant herself. I know of a woman who had to bring someone else along to carry a small box - which weighed perhaps 2kg? I know of a man in his 60s who is capable of driving himself on the 2hr journey to the capital, but incapable of driving his mother on the same journey (no additional equipment needed except for space for one extra person of which his car is big enough to handle).
Shame on all of you if you choose to be useless. And shame also on those of you who allow these people to be useless. If you pander to their requests for help simply because they are too lazy to do it themselves, shame on you. You are encouraging one to be lazy. That help would be better suited to help those who really need the help, like the elderly, disabled, uneducated...
If one is too lazy to be useful for themselves, my stance is 'Too Bad'. If you can't be bothered to do it yourself, then it obviously isn't important enough for you. Call me harsh, but I'm not going to waste my time helping lazy people - I will help those who do need help.
You are lucky to be blessed with hands that can pick up the telephone to book your car service, to have a voice to ask the question yourself, have access to technology to login to the Internet and book accommodation/flights yourself, legs to bring you to the shop to buy/collect whatever it is you need, ears to listen to instructions so you know how to operate the computer / lift / phone / etc and a combination of motor functions to drive a car yourself.
Why do some people pretend to be incapable of doing the simplest of tasks? To pretend that they can't do it? Simply because they are too lazy. Most of the time because they can get away with having someone else do it.
Be ashamed of yourselves. If you can't lift the cupboard hence need help from someone stronger? Fair enough. If you're not tall enough to reach to the top of the shelf and there is not a chair in sight, so need someone taller to help? Ok.
Especially be ashamed that you are healthy and fit, yet choose not to use what God has blessed you with, in order to function properly in life. Be ashamed that there are other less healthy people in the world who can do all these things and more. Because they have the right attitude. Because they are not lazy.
Be ashamed if you use your gender or age to your advantage too. I know of a 20+year old woman who got others to book her ticket and fly the same airline as her (even though it was more expensive and took longer) just so she can get air miles on her trip. Shame also on the rest who stupidly followed through. The same woman gets gentlemen to do her errands she is perfectly capable of doing herself. Shame on these gentlemen who do not think with their proper head. I know of another older woman (but not so old that she is hard of hearing, or has sight issues or has motor issues) who is dependent on others to go for meals so she does not have to choose the restaurant herself. I know of a woman who had to bring someone else along to carry a small box - which weighed perhaps 2kg? I know of a man in his 60s who is capable of driving himself on the 2hr journey to the capital, but incapable of driving his mother on the same journey (no additional equipment needed except for space for one extra person of which his car is big enough to handle).
Shame on all of you if you choose to be useless. And shame also on those of you who allow these people to be useless. If you pander to their requests for help simply because they are too lazy to do it themselves, shame on you. You are encouraging one to be lazy. That help would be better suited to help those who really need the help, like the elderly, disabled, uneducated...
If one is too lazy to be useful for themselves, my stance is 'Too Bad'. If you can't be bothered to do it yourself, then it obviously isn't important enough for you. Call me harsh, but I'm not going to waste my time helping lazy people - I will help those who do need help.
Sunday, July 12, 2009
Need to read more
As I flicked through magazines yesterday during lunch, I realised how little I actually read these days. Ashamed as I am to say this, I actually browse through the pictures to see if anything catches my fancy before I read in more detail. When I realised this halfway through the browse, I tried forcing myself to read the next article. And I was too tired to!
My oh my. These weren't even technical journals. They were women's magazines, which as anyone would know, is hardly difficult to read! How I used to have my nose buried in a book, unable to put it down. I could usually be found sitting in the aisles of a bookstore reading the books (hence saving money as I could finish the book in the store and thus not have to buy it.)
I went through a phase of not allowing myself to read, in case I fell to my habit of not putting the book down until I've finished it - usually at the expense of sleep. Then a wise colleague encouraged me back to the love of reading and there I was, week after week, looking through the shelves of the library.
So what happened this time? I don't know, really. Just laziness, I suppose. I could blame the lack of good libraries here. But perhaps I didn't really go bother looking anyways. Perhaps it's time I tried again.
My oh my. These weren't even technical journals. They were women's magazines, which as anyone would know, is hardly difficult to read! How I used to have my nose buried in a book, unable to put it down. I could usually be found sitting in the aisles of a bookstore reading the books (hence saving money as I could finish the book in the store and thus not have to buy it.)
I went through a phase of not allowing myself to read, in case I fell to my habit of not putting the book down until I've finished it - usually at the expense of sleep. Then a wise colleague encouraged me back to the love of reading and there I was, week after week, looking through the shelves of the library.
So what happened this time? I don't know, really. Just laziness, I suppose. I could blame the lack of good libraries here. But perhaps I didn't really go bother looking anyways. Perhaps it's time I tried again.
Saturday, July 11, 2009
Offended at THAT???
I had an almost nasty encounter with a titled-person this morning. It is funny that people take offence at the weirdest things. Get all high and mighty because they believe you infer something else that you actually did not even think about, but was just giving factual information. It stems all from your own insecurity and inferiority, m'dear. It doesn't bother me anymore. Get offended if you wish. Just in case no one has told you (or has dared to tell you), your title doesn't actually count for much to educated people and definitely nothing outside the area you are in. Try mentioning that title to people outside this area, and they would think it's your first name! So, if you want to get offended, feel free to get your blood pressure up and all stressy. It's ok by me!
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